January is the start of a new year and a time that many people are thinking about the changes they want to make. Especially after the changes we have all been through over the past couple years dealing with Covid and all the ways that has affected our lives, many people make resolutions and goals for the new year. Some common ones are goals to lose weight, exercise more, overcome a habit like smoking or drinking too much, find a way to improve financial situation by starting a business or reducing debt.

Young Living has several wonderful essential oil blends that are awesome to use with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and any kind of work making changes or working with goals. EFT is a powerful tool in making changes and removing negative feelings that block success.

Here are a couple links with some info on how to do EFT:
https://www.melodiekantner.com/how-to-do-eft

Two oil blends I love to use with EFT are Release and Motivation, especially these days with Covid and all the other craziness that seems to be going on in the world.
Release helps release negative emotions that we sometimes get sucked into. I use Release in the beginning rounds of EFT where you are focusing on tapping through the negative emotions.

Motivation: This is one of my favorite oil blends for help getting moving. Motivation oil can help you overcome negativity and procrastination, so you can move past old patterns and reach your goals.

Using Motivation oil and EFT For lack of motivation when you are not motivated to do whatever it is that will move you closer to a goal. Not motivated to exercise? Not motivated to do a business task? Not motivated to eat healthy food choices? Whatever it is, insert that thought as you are tapping through the Tapping Script below. Don’t worry about getting the words right or the exact points. Just think about what you are feeling and tap through the points.

Apply 1 – 3 drops of Release oil on your fingertips, then tap on the Karate Chop Point with the oiled up fingertips. As you are tapping the EFT Points, you will have enough remaining oil to carry to all the other points.

While tapping the Karate Chop Point, Repeat 3 Times:

Even though I can’t get motivated, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I don’t feel like doing anything, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I’m just not motivated, I choose to do it now.

Round One: Focusing on the Feelings

(eyebrow) I am not motivated.
(side of eye) I don’t feel like doing it.
(under eye) I just can’t seem to get started
(under nose) I am resisting getting started.
(chin) I don’t know what to do so I put it off till later.
(collarbone) I’m a little tired so I will wait till later.
(under arm) I don’t feel motivated.
(head) I’m tired of thinking about this.

(eyebrow) I don’t want to get it going.
(side of eye) Yes I do want to get it going.
(under eye) I’m feeling unmotivated.
(under nose) Releasing the habit of putting things off
(chin) Letting go of feeling unmotivated.
(collarbone) I am releasing the feeling unmotivated.
(under arm) Letting go of the feeling unmotivated.
(head) Release and let go of the feeling unmotivated.

Round Two: Switch to Positive add a couple drops of Motivation to your fingertips, or, if you prefer another oil, go with what feels right to you.

(eyebrow) I choose to feel motivated.
(side of eye) I choose to get moving.
(under eye) I step into energy and motivation.
(under nose) I choose to move forward one step at a time.
(chin) I feel good moving forward.
(collarbone) I choose to move forward in a way that feels even more motivating.
(under arm) I enjoy taking action.
(head) I choose to feel energized and motivated.

Here is another EFT session on Motivation:
EFT Tapping For Those Days When You Feel Crappy and Unmotivated:
https://www.melodiekantner.com/eft-tapping-for-those-days-when-you-feel-crappy-and-unmotivated

Release That Angry Mood, It’s Blocking Abundance – EFT Session
https://www.melodiekantner.com/release-that-angry-mood-its-blocking-abundance-eft-session

Take a deep breath.



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EFT Points:

EFT for Network Marketers



focusKeeping focused on the road ahead. When you are driving your car toward a destination, you need to keep focused on the road ahead. You have laid out the path to the destination and you start your journey toward your goal.


You look in the rear view mirror briefly but you don’t spend too much time looking at what is behind you. If you did that, you would run off the road and crash.


Another thing: you don’t spend too much time looking at the things beside you or around you. If you want to arrive safely at your destination, you keep focused on the road ahead. That way you see the bumps and potholes and anything that is going to slow or hinder you in your journey. Sometimes you may come across a detour and may need to make an adjustment to your route but you still have your destination in mind and you are still focused ahead on the goal.


Now think about the driving illustration as you work toward your goals. This principal applies to any goals we are working on. It could be spiritual goals, weight loss goals, exercise and fitness goals, business goals or pretty much anything we are working toward. Since this blog is primarily to help you as a network marketer, we will focus on business goals.


The first thing you need to do is figure out where you want to go in your business. Your WHY! For me it was FREEDOM. Freedom from the daily grind of having to go to a job that I really didn’t enjoy, just to make ends meet. Life is too short to waste doing that. Also Financial Freedom was a part of it.


Most network marketers start their business with the idea of some kind of freedom that building a home business can help you achieve. Whether you are thinking that an income on the side that would supplement your monthly income or whether you intend to grow a business that can fully support your family, the same principle applies. You have to keep your goal in mind and your eyes on the road ahead.


You will occasionally look in the rear view mirror to see things behind. You can learn from things that happened in the past, both good and bad. You must not spend too long dwelling on the past. If you do, you have taken your eyes off the road. This is especially a problem if we have things we feel bad about and wish we had done differently. We can end up beating up on ourselves and wasting time. Dieters often have this problem. A bad eating day can result in going days before getting back on track. Just acknowledge it and say, “Yup, I messed that up. Now I’m focusing on the future!”


As you are driving a car, there will be things that happen around you. You have someone in the car with you, you see beautiful scenery along the road, passing interesting locations you might like to check out or any number of distractions. The same is true as you are driving toward your business goals. There will be all kinds of distractions along the way.


There are several times during the year when when distributors can be tempted to take a leave of absence from their business. Summertime and holiday seasons are good examples. There are always going to be distractions. It is very unwise to take your focus off your goals during the summer or other seasons of partying. You can still have fun doing summer vacation things but never take your focus off your goals. There are plenty of opportunities to advance your business during the summer or other busy times.


You can stay in marketing mode even when having fun doing other things.


Never forget your your destination. That is why it is imperative to set goals, map out a plan to get there and then STAY FOCUSED on the road ahead. Always remember your WHY. Each morning ask yourself, “What can I do today that will help me to move closer to my goals?”


Those of you who are using Young Living Oils, you have several helpful oils that can help you keep focused on your goals. A few examples are: Magnify Your Purpose, Abundance, Frankincense, Envision, Clarity, Motivation, Dream Catcher.


Use oils with EFT to help you get focused on what you want to accomplish in your business. Remember and focus on your WHY.

Here is an EFT Tapping to Rev Up Abundance Energy – Focus on your WHY – Your Network Marketing Mission

Add the oils to your fingertips and tap through the points. It really does not matter which points you tap. Just tap through the points focusing on the words and feelings.

Starting at eyebrow point:

I have a gift that can bring freedom for some and I would love to share it more
In these economic times people really need solutions.
Network marketing is a solution for me and many others.
It is a better way and I want to share it with more people.
Sometimes I’m afraid to share what I have.
I admit it, Sometimes I’m kind of a chicken.
I’m so worried about failing.
I worry too much about what people will think.

Sometimes I’d rather be invisible.
It’s easier in my comfort zone
Yes, it’s easier to hide and play it safe …
but I have played small long enough.
I’m sick of playing small!!
What I have is really great and can really help people, me included!
I choose to remember WHY I am building this business.
What kind of person would I be if I didn’t share this?
I am a walking reward for 10,000 people.
I am going for it now!
Even though I am afraid of failing
I’m NOT giving in!
This is MY time!
I’ve waited long enough.
I am going for it.
I want to share a solution and get paid well.

This is my time to shine.
and I really do want it.
I am stepping up in my mission.
Yes, it feels scary, but I am doing it anyway!
I am letting the universe know that I really do want this.
I am ready to help other people find their FREEDOM This is my mission
I am open and ready to receive more!
I am GOING for it! Yes I am!!

Take a deep breath.


You can tap along with the video if you like:


Success in any kind of business requires doing actual Income Producing Activities every day. In a regular JOB you arrive for the work schedule every day and you have to do the daily tasks or you will get fired. When you have a network marketing business, you are working from home on your own schedule. It can be a challenge to keep focused on the actual income producing activities that actually grow your business. It can be easy to get caught up in doing things that seem like business activities but are really just a form of procrastination. Things like organizing the office or learning all you can about the products and the science behind them, checking in on Facebook Groups related to your business or making graphics. These things are important but if you spend too much time in any area that is not an income producing activity, your business will not grow.

Income producing activities involve connecting with people, approaching new people, talking with people and building relationships. There are lots of ways to do that both in person and online. It’s really not hard and actually quite fun once you get past the underlying anxiety that gets in the way.

It’s the underlying anxiety that causes procrastination. We all have it in some area. In your business it can show up when you feel hesitant to talk about your business or product.
To build a successful network marketing business, you need to step out of your comfort zone.

There are lots of ways to open up conversation and interest in your products and business. Think of it as planting seeds. Make connections and friends.

EFT is powerful way to help with stepping out of your comfort zone and attacking your Daily IPAs. You can tap on whatever you are feeling that is slowing you down or getting in your way. I really love the Tap While You Gripe technique. Just tap and say (or think) whatever is on your mind. Notice the feelings you are having about talking about your business. Do you feel uncomfortable bringing up the product or that you are building a home business? Feelings like that will cause procrastination which will block your success.

I always use an essential oil blend to power up my EFT tapping. You can do EFT without oils but if you are a Young Living Essential Oil user, just add a couple drops of oil to your fingertips and start tapping through the points. Use whatever oil feels right for you. A few ideas are: Abundance, Motivation, Magnify Your Purpose, Valor.

Let’s do some tapping on this!

Jump right in tapping through any of the points.

I am anxious about putting myself out there.
Talking with new people and making new connections and new friends.
I know I need to make new connections and build relationships.
I find myself sometimes holding back.
I want to make more connections and build relationships.
I know this is a relationship business.
It’s very important to grow my connections and friends.
I don’t feel very social.
I am an introvert.
I feel a little anxious about approaching people I don’t know.
It feels a little uncomfortable so I hold back.
Staying in my comfort zone with the same 30 people I already know.
I even hold back talking to the ones I already know.
What if they think I’m a weirdo?
I am releasing the emotional attachment to feeling anxious.
I am releasing the emotional attachment to feeling uncomfortable.
I am releasing the emotional attachment to feeling unsocial.
I am releasing the emotional attachment to fear of speaking up.
RELEASE the anxiety …
RELEASE the discomfort …
RELEASE the fear.
It doesn’t have to be hard.
If I just love on my friends and share with them, things happen naturally.
I’ll use my favorite products in front of them and share if they need it.
This doesn’t have to feel uncomfortable.
I share all kinds of things with my friends and family that I get no benefit from.
I share movies I like.
I share restaurants I like.
I share lots of products I like that I never get compensation for.
I just share because I love my friends and it’s natural to talk about what I love.
It’s natural to talk about how a product has helped my family.
I love my products and my business and I on the lookout for ways I can share what I love.
I know some of my friends will want to join me on this healthy lifestyle journey.
Some will also want to join me in this amazing community and a lifestyle of freedom.
It doesn’t have to feel weird.
It’s just a matter of fact.
I use these products for a more healthy lifestyle for my family.
I happen to get paid for referrals.
That’s nothing to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about.
It makes me one smart cookie.
I love helping people have a healthier lifestyle.
I love connecting and making new friends and building my community of friends living a lifestyle of health and freedom.

Take a deep breath.

Tap as often as you need to. Add any feelings you want to as you shift to feeling more comfortable making connections and sharing the products you love.
This would be a good one to tap through before any social events where you will be meeting new friends or interacting with people you already know.

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Releasing the Anxiety of Prospecting



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Do you ever feel STUCK in your business? You set goals with the intent to reach them but it seems like it’s a constant struggle.

We all feel stuck sometimes. You know what I mean. Progress seems to stop or be going really slowly. Stuck at a rank for what seems like a long time without seeing progress towards the next rank, or stuck at an income that is nowhere near the amount you have set as your goal.

I know what it is like to be stuck at the same rank for years. I knew I was stuck. I wanted to move to the next rank and I was OK with that for way too long. I actually knew why I was stuck. It was fears around what would happen if I advanced to Diamond. What would be expected of me? How big a change? Will I have any free time?

Whenever you are stuck or finding yourself in a procrastination loop, it is ALWAYS because of an underlying fear. I have had people respond that they don’t have fear about reaching their goal. “I want to get to Diamond” or “I want to earn a 6 figure income.” The problem is, they are not progressing. If you are not making progress, there is something blocking your goals. Underlying fears cause procrastination and other sabotage behaviors. If you find yourself having a lot of “squirrel moments” or going down rabbit holes that distract you from income producing activity, there is a subconscious fear blocking your progress.

Do you know WHY you are stuck?

I didn’t know why I was stuck but once I started noticing my feelings and asking the right questions, I began to realize which underlying fears were getting in my way. Once I realized the “downside” to reaching my goal, I could start working on it with EFT.

We all have things going on in our subconscious that can turn into blocks. If you have been a distributor in a company for any length of time there will be a few dissatisfied customers or distributors. Yup, it will happen. Some people will test your patience. Some will even start a vicious cycle of drama when they feel they have been wronged. It happened to me and it was a very hard time to go through. It was easy to spot the blocks that came up from that event. It threw me into protection mode. Never again was I going to allow someone to put me in a spot where they could hurt me that way. It affected my business building. I was angry and it overflowed into everything I was doing. I started doing busy work instead of income producing activity and got stuck in a pattern of procrastination and sabotage. I was STUCK!

The problem is, when your subconscious is protecting you, it is actually putting a halt to your progress. It means well but it’s not really helping.

We all have this subconscious protection going on. It could be something really simple. You could have had some embarrassing thing happen as a child and something today reminds you of it. The trick is asking the right questions to help you realize what underlying fears are getting in your way.

Ask yourself, “What is the downside of getting to your goal?” There could be a LOT of little things that go in the downside column.

Will I have to speak in front of people?
Will I have people constantly wanting things from me?
Will I have a moments peace from people contacting me with questions, complaining, solving problems, etc.?
Will I have time for myself?
Will I be able to help my team be successful?
Will I become a target for people with bad motives?
What will my friends and family think of my goals?

There are lots of things that could be going on in your subconscious. Ask the questions and then tap on any negative issues.

Here is a little tapping on being stuck. You can change the words to anything that feels right. It doesn’t matter what points you tap. Just tap and talk through whatever comes up.

Focus in on your feelings around reaching your income or rank goal.

Essential oils that could be used with this tapping: Valor, Abundance, Acceptance, Magnify Your Purpose, Motivation, Release, Field.
Add a drop or two of essential oil to fingertips before tapping through the points.

While tapping the karate chop point on either hand, repeat these phrases, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

Even though I know I am stuck, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I’m so tired of being stuck, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I really want to get to the next goal but I am stuck and sabotaging progress, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

Tap through the points:

I am stuck.
Not making any real progress
It feels so frustrating when I am stuck.
I wish I could just reach my goals quickly like some people do.
I’m not even sure why I am stuck.
I know there is some fear blocking me.
Somewhere inside I am protecting myself from something.
I don’t feel comfortable with success so I sabotage myself.
For some reason I keep sabotaging my success.
I just can’t seem to get unstuck.
I am resisting success but I want success.
I don’t know why I keep sabotaging myself.
I want success but I can’t seem to get unstuck.
This issue keeps coming up.
I make a few steps forward but then something stops me and gets me stuck again.
I am ready to release the emotional attachment to being stuck.
I release the emotional attachment to staying stuck.
I am ready to look at the real reasons I have been staying stuck and making very slow progress.
I release the emotional attachment to being stuck.
I release the emotional attachment to blocking my progress.
I release the emotional attachment to sabotaging my progress.
I release the emotional attachment to slowing down my progress.
I release the emotional attachment to blocking my goals.
I release the emotional attachment to resisting success.
I am letting go of the fear.
I am releasing the need to protect myself from the unknown.
Letting go of the fear of what will happen.
Release and let go of the fear of success.


I choose to feel safe and confident in my success.
I deserve success.
I choose to feel comfortable reaching my biggest goals.
I forgive myself for the times I was stuck.
I feel good moving forward.
I AM the power to change my life.
I am celebrating progress and reaching my goals.
I comfortable and safe making progress and reaching my goals.
I am excited about the progress and the changes I am making.

Take a deep breath.

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There is one question I get asked a lot. New distributors ask it but even distributors who have been working a at their business for quite some time often ask, “What is the secret to success?”

That’s a good question. There are a lot of things involved in a successful network marketing business but the most important is summed up in 2 words.

“Get started.”

You may think that is overly simple but the sad fact is, most people never really get started building a successful network marketing business. They buy a starter kit but never do much else.

You want FREEDOM from the passion killing corporate grind, grow an income that will be there for supplemental or full time income for retirement years. That will not happen if you don’t get started BUILDING your business which involves marketing and promoting.

You have to figure out which ways to market and promote your business. Once you figure out those things, you need to use trial and error to test out what works for you. You may even find that you need to totally change directions. The thing is, you can’t change directions until you get moving. Think of driving a car. The car has to be moving before you can turn in any direction, whether a slight turn or a full turn.

One of my mentors used to say,
You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it GOING!

The way to get anywhere is to start from where you are right now and learn as you go. Prospecting and marketing = sales volume growth = income growth. Getting started involves getting your marketing materials together and getting to it. As you learn and practice, you get better and better, more and more comfortable.

Here’s and EFT Script to help you get motivated:

Apply 1 – 3 drops of Release oil on your fingertips, then tap on the Karate Chop Point with the oiled up fingertips. As you are tapping the EFT Points, you will have enough remaining oil to carry to all the other points.

While tapping the Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t know what to do , I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I’m stuck and don’t feel like doing anything, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I am feeling stuck and unmotivated, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

You can add something specific you need to do if you want. Don’t worry. It doesn’t matter what words you say on which points.

Round One: Focusing on the Negative Feelings

(eyebrow) I am feeling stuck and unmotivated.
(side of eye) I don’t know what to do.
(under eye) I just can’t seem to get started.
(nose) I know getting started is the key to success.
(chin) I know getting started with DAILY PROSPECTING is top priority.
(collarbone) I feel a little stressed out about that.
(under arm) I feel resistance to getting started.
(head) I can’t seem to get started.

(eyebrow) I don’t want to get it going.
(side of eye) Yes I DO want to get it going.
(under eye) I’m feeling a little stressed out about prospecting.
(nose) What if I just start moving?
(chin) I know just making a few steps forward will start some momentum.
(collarbone) I am releasing the fear of getting started.
(under arm) Releasing and letting go of the fear.
(head) Releasing it from every cell in my body.

Round Two: Implant Positive

(eyebrow) I choose to feel motivated to get started.
(side of eye) I choose to take steps forward and get momentum moving forward.
(under eye) I step into energy and motivation.
(nose) I choose to move forward one step at a time.
(chin) I feel good moving forward.
(collarbone) I choose to move get started in a way that feels even more motivating.
(under arm) I enjoy taking action.
(head) I choose to feel energized and motivated as I get started NOW.

Take a deep breath.

If you feel you need more work on this, run through the tapping a few more times. You may need to revisit this issue from time to time. We all have days when we need a reboot. 😉

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