Your self-esteem begins to be undermined by things people told you and feelings about negative experiences you had when you were young. Many people have been treated poorly and told they won’t amount to much or compared to another child.


Even when we were treated well by family, there are things that can happen over the years of our childhood and teen age years that can affect our self-esteem. Those little things can accumulate and affect the way we operate as an adult.


rejectedYou can use EFT to help release some of the negative feelings around these issues. Try thinking back on anything in your childhood that made you feel embarrassed, rejected or not good enough. If you were always picked last for the sports team or felt left out in some way. Things like this stay in our subconscious and can cause you to hold back in your network marketing business or other things you are striving to accomplish in your life.


Think of some of these incidents that happened in the past. Take notice how strong the negative feeling is on a scale between 0-10. Ten being the most most powerful negative feeling.


Now as you start tapping, think of how you felt. Tap through the points in the EFT Tapping Script below. Keep going through the first part with the negative until you feel the negative emotion drop to zero. Young Living Essential Oils users may want to use Release Essential Oil blend with this part of the process.


Once you get the negative feeling down to zero, you can do some positive feeling tapping. Use a mood uplifting essential oil blend for this part. I like Joy or Acceptance oil blends for the second part of the EFT session where you shift to forward moving energy and mindset.


You can change the script below to fit whatever feelings or issues you want. The important thing is to feel and release the negative feelings around the incidents. You can do this over and over with anything you want. Sometimes as you are tapping, you will remember other incidents that bother you. You could add those to a list of things to tap next.


Start on the Karate Chop Point
If you know of something specific that has contributed to lower self esteem, you can tap on that.Release Essential Oil with EFT If you are not sure what to tap on, you can tap on some general


Even though they told me I’d never amount to anything, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I don’t feel good about myself, I deeply love and accept myself
Even though a part of me doesn’t like myself at all, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Even though I am not worthy of success, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.


Round One: Focusing on the Feelings


(eyebrow) I don’t like myself much.
(side of eye) I am having trouble accepting myself.
(under eye) I feel defective and don’t feel confident.
(nose) I don’t think I’ll ever accept myself.
(chin) I don’t like myself.
(collarbone) I don’t accept who I am.
(under arm) I They told me I was not good enough.
(head) I don’t like myself.


Keep repeating round one until you feel the negative emotions are released.


Round Two: Implant Positive
(eyebrow) What if I could like myself?
(side of eye) They were wrong to say I wouldn’t amount to much
(under eye) I know they were wrong!
(nose) I have so many wonderful qualities.
(chin) People are drawn to me because of my magnetic personality.
(collarbone) I choose to recognize my own unique qualities.
(under arm) I appreciate who I am now.
(head) I am so grateful for my growing self-esteem.


Try using EFT to release things that would block your network marketing success. Listen to your intuition when using oils with EFT. There are many Young Living Oil blends that can be used for emotional clearing with EFT. Use whatever oil feels right. It will likely be a good one.


I have a little secret weapon that I love to add to my EFT sessions. What is the secret weapon, you ask?


It’s ESSENTIAL OILS!


When I teach fellow network marketers how to do EFT, I always teach them how to enhance their EFT sessions with powerful emotional essential oil blends.


To use essential oils with EFT, just put a couple drops of the essential oil on your fingertips and on the karate chop point before you begin tapping. The oil will be carried to all the other points as you tap.


EFT Oils - Valor
Valor – an essential oil blend that empowers the mind and increases feelings of courage and confidence. Valor would be a wonderful oil to use before doing anything that is out of your comfort zone. Use it before doing business or product presentations, prospecting, follow up calls, or anything that makes you feel fearful.

Valor also balances the body’s energy meridians and emotions. It’s a wonderful oil to add to and EFT routine. You can use Valor before you begin to help make everything you are doing more effective, then finish up with Valor to give you strength to move forward.

Procrastination is usually caused by an underlying fear. Using Valor with EFT on whatever you are procrastinating can help shift to a more productive state of mind. If you are procrastinating business tasks you could do some tapping on procrastination and getting out of your comfort zone.

Tapping Scripts With Valor
https://www.melodiekantner.com/eft-to-release-fear-of-change
https://www.melodiekantner.com/tapping-for-holding-back-from-speaking-up

https://www.melodiekantner.com/eft-to-release-quarantine-fears-and-stress
https://www.melodiekantner.com/releasing-the-anxiety-of-attracting-new-prospects

Motivation – An essential oil blend that may promote feelings of action and accomplishment. This is an essential oil that is helpful when you have things to do but you just don’t feel motivated to do it.

Tapping Scripts With Motivation
https://www.melodiekantner.com/simple-steps-to-get-unstuck-and-stay-motivated

https://www.melodiekantner.com/eft-tapping-for-those-days-when-you-feel-crappy-and-unmotivated

Envision – An oil blend that stimulates feelings of creativity and resourcefulness, encouraging renewed faith in the future and the strength necessary to achieve your dreams.

Daily visualization is really important for achieving your goals. You need to see it in your mind’s eye to be able to achieve it. Use Envision along with visualization. Just close your eyes and think visualize reaching your goal. Get as detailed as possible in your thinking. Tap through the EFT points while you are visualizing.

Tapping Script With Envision
https://www.melodiekantner.com/see-yourself-as-a-crowndiamond

Acceptance – encourages feelings of self-worth and acceptance. Sometimes there are things that happen, like the past year of covid. Everything has been different and challenging. Things keep changing. Some changes are good, some changes are not so good. Accepting things that you can’t change helps you to figure out how to move forward. Accepting things as they are helps emotionally let go of past mistakes and formulate a plan to move in the direction you really want to make progress in, no matter what kind of area you want success in.

Highest Potential – is an oil that was designed to increase your capacity to achieve your highest potential and be your best self. Use whenever you need a little extra inspiration, confidence and determination.

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Release is a blend with a relaxing aroma that facilitates the ability to let go of anger and frustration. This oil is wonderful with EFT to let go of things that are holding you back.


I have had a couple people tell me that they have an overwhelming need to talk and unload the negative feelings when they use Release oil. I recommend the “Tap While You Gripe” technique for this. It works wonders when you want to vent about something that makes you angry or upset. With the “Tap While You Gripe” technique, you just tap through the EFT points while you talk about whatever is bothering you. Get it all off your chest. You can say the words out loud or in your head but just say anything that comes to mind about the issue. Sometimes you may not even know why you feel bad. Tap anyway. Start with, “I feel bad but I don’t know why.” Then describe the way you feel and keep tapping on whatever comes to mind.

Don’t worry about getting the points right. You can tap all or just a few of the points. Just tap and talk.


Do a little mental gauge: On a scale between 0 and 10 how strong is this negative emotion? 10 is really strong negative feelings. Keep tapping until you get down to zero.

Release oil blend is really great for releasing anger and other negative feelings.


Abundance oil blend is possibly my favorite of all. This oil blend raises your abundance-oil-blendbody’s energy to the frequency of attraction so you attract abundance. Abundance oil is also very uplifting. Abundance is one oil I apply every morning before I do any business. I also apply it whenever I go anywhere there are people. That oil attracts business.


You can use Abundance oil with EFT when you are working on law of attraction issues. The law of attraction is always at work. Our negative emotions block abundance so we want to be shifting our energy to a positive attracting one. We want to radiate an abundance energy.


Abundance oil is also wonderful for affirmation tapping. Also when you are focusing on your goals.


Here is an excellent EFT Session that Abundance oil works well with:

I am A Magnet For Abundance and Success

Listen to your intuition when using oils with EFT. The names of Young Living Oil blends give an impression what they can be used for on an emotional level but sometimes you can be drawn to an oil you would not normally expect. Use whatever oil feels right. It will likely be a good one.




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Essential Oils and EFT

stuckThere are times when we feel stuck. It’s a natural thing that we all seem to go through from time to time. It can happen in all kinds of areas where we want to make progress. For example, you want your network marketing business to grow so you know you should be making follow up phone calls, doing marketing and promotion, writing newsletters and blog posts.


Sometimes when building your business you can find yourself feeling stuck wondering which way to go. You have to figure out which ways to market and promote your business. Once you figure out those things, you need to use trial and error to test out what works for you. You may even find that you need to totally change directions. The thing is, you can’t change directions until you get moving. Think of driving a car. The car has to be moving before you can turn in any direction, whether a slight turn or a full turn.


The key to getting unstuck is to just start moving forward. Motivation never starts automatically. It kicks in once you get moving. Even if on some days the steps are small. Just take steps.


I love that quote by Joe Schroeder, “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it GOING!” The way to get anywhere is to start from where you are right now, learn and make adjustments as you go. If you don’t start moving towards your goals, you will stay eternally stuck. Even the smallest steps stir more steps forward.


An example used by writers is to just start writing. Don’t worry about what you are writing. Don’t over analyze. Just start pouring out words on a subject. Once you get the thoughts flowing, more ideas come to you.


The same applies to other things. Picking up the phone and calling someone when you are not in the mood can seem like an impossible task. Once you make that first phone call, the mood lifts and the next call gets easier. Exercise is another example. It can be hard to get off the couch and get an exercise session started but once you do, it is easy to keep going. I often trick myself by saying, “I’ll just do 5 minutes worth.” I always stay on for more.


EFT can be a really wonderful tool to help get motivated and get unstuck.

Here’s an EFT Script to help you get motivated:

Apply 1 – 3 drops of Motivation oil on your fingertips, then tap on the Karate Chop Point with the oiled up fingertips. As you are tapping the EFT Points, you will have enough remaining oil to carry to all the other points.
Motivation Essential Oil
While tapping the Karate Chop Point, Repeat 3 Times:

Even though I am feeling stuck and unmotivated,I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I don’t know what to do , I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I’m stuck and don’t feel like doing anything, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

You can add something specific you need to do if you want.

Focusing on the Feelings


I am feeling stuck and unmotivated.
I don’t know what to do.
I just can’t seem to get started…
I am resisting getting started.
I don’t know what to do so I put it off till later.
I feel stuck so I will wait till later.
I don’t feel motivated.
I’m tired of thinking about this.


I don’t want to get it going.
Yes I do want to get it going.
I’m feeling stuck and unmotivated.
What if I just start moving.
I know just making a few steps forward will start some momentum.
I am releasing the unmotivation.
I’m starting with just 2 steps.
I know I won’t stop at just 2 steps.


Switch to Positive


I choose to feel motivated.
I choose to take steps forward and get momentum moving forward.
I step into energy and motivation.
I choose to move forward one step at a time.
I feel good moving forward.
I choose to move forward in a way that feels even more motivating.
I enjoy taking action.
I choose to feel energized and motivated.

Take a deep breath.


Try EFT with Motivation oil when you need a little help getting motivated.


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EFT for Network Marketers